Surviving Your Spouses Infidelity
After the discovery of your partners infidelity, emotions run high and you can experience post- traumatic stress disorder syndrome symptoms (PTSD syndrome) which includes irritability, hostility, depression, anxiety, hyper-vigilance, suicidal thoughts and images, and homicidal thoughts or images to name a few.
Causes Of Infidelity
An affair can happen in almost any marriage. The causes may include low self- esteem, lack of affection, addiction, losing the connection, or a lack of turning toward one another.
The affair can take the form of emotional and physical intimacy, deception or flirtation. Emotional affairs can be just as damaging as physical affairs and are sometimes harder for the affair partner to let go of completely.
Help For Infidelity
After the initial shock of discovering an affair you may feel depressed, as in any major trauma. Whether you want to know the details of the infidelity or not, you will be continually searching for signs of ongoing betrayal and several types of proof of trustworthiness reassure the you.
In most cases of infidelity the communication between the two of you is a problem and there is also a need for additional help on areas such as:
- Understanding the foundation of your marriage and how that has influenced your relationship
- Building awareness of your emotional and sexual feelings and needs by putting your feeling and needs into words
- Confronting difficult lifestyle changes
- Building Love Maps
- Sharing Fondness and Admiration
- Turning Towards
- Managing Conflict
- Making life dreams come true
- Creating shared meaning
Many couples believe that recovering from infidelity is impossible. For some that may be true. However, in our experience we have seen many couples recover and go on to live out marriages that are more fulfilling and robust than they ever imagined.