Ways To Keep Love Alive
The everlasting question of will never accurately or absolutely be answered, but the question of how to stay in love can be answered somewhat simply if you just have the keep focused, determined, and stay motivated. You will be surprised that by putting your mind to it you begin to realize that the question of how to stay in love is answered simply as how to find new ways to love your partner. Every day we see something new about our partner and when you do, you respond in a new loving way. This is done by accomplishing the one thing that everlasting love is supposed to be about, perseverance – going the distance.
Last night I could tell that my husband had a rough day at work. He finished work only to come outside and see his tire was completely flat. That in and of itself was enough but the last thing that had happened at work had really made the tire being flat a real downer for lack of a better word. Fortunately, the prepared guy he is, he put a can of fix a flat in the tire and came home. I knew that he definitely needed for me to listen and care and – now if I am honest, it is usually the other way around. He knows that I feel loved and cherished when I am listened to attentively. So last night I listened and tried to really love his cares away. Anyway, today as soon as he had his shower, he went out side to check the tire- no coffee first – so I knew this was not the way the day needed to start for him. He is a coffee first kind of guy. I could tell that I needed to focus on helping him- loving him and addressing his biggest concern. I had to be patient and ready to get out the door to at a moment’s notice so as not to add to his distress. Just like you and your partner, we too are two different people and handle things quite differently. So you can ask yourself what your partner needs from you right now under the circumstances and give your love in that way. Do I always do this to the best of my ability – no- but today I really tried hard to be patient and understanding and accept how he was dealing with this. And guess what on the days you don’t get it right – just like me- you have a chance everyday to love them all over again in a new way. The point is your partner will remember those moments that you really tried to be loving and give to you. That is how to stay in love.
Our world today has perpetuated the myth that love happens at first sight and is very easy to maintain because it is some inborn passion that lives inside you forever. While love may initially introduce itself in this manner, how to stay in love is quite a different story. How to stay in love is rooted in the idea that you are never quite finished learning about each other and finding new ways to give and express your love. You see everyone experiences love in a different way. This is because you both have been raised by different families and loved in different ways that became comfortable to you. You have both experienced life in different ways. You have also had previous relationships that also impact your love. The best way to stay in love is to stay curious about each other. Learning about your partner, learning about your relationship and learning about what you are about and what you need in the way of love. How do you feel and experience love? Teach your partner how to love you and have your partner teach you how to love them. In the way, you will get it right and know just how to stay in love, forever.
Do you remember how long and hard it was to find your true love and complete the road to marriage? Will it will be much longer and harder to stay that way? If you were hoping to find the long lost secret that can be done overnight think about this – the secret to great love is to both discover new ways of giving love to each other and making sure that you love in the way that each of you feels and experiences that love .
This is what makes love worth it, the payoff in the end. Knowing that how to stay in love is something that you can do together for each other, you should be encouraged to know that you will never be disappointed, and you will keep your everlasting love alive.