Healthy Marriage Means You Close The Gaps
There are at least two characteristics that all healthy marriages have in common.
1.) Healthy Marriages are mutually enriching
2.) Both spouses have a deep respect for each other.
It is a mutually satisfying relationship that is beneficial to the husband, wife and children (if present).
It is a relationship that is committed to ongoing growth, the use of effective communication skills and the use of successful conflict management skills.
You see, both of you must feel that you are getting something from the relationship to make it last. Think about your car… it has certain needs to make it go like fuel, maintenance, a good cleaning of all the excess things that don’t belong in your car. Your relationship is the same. It needs nourishing, maintenance , and every once in a while you just have to clean out all the old stuff and quit carrying it around with you.
Always, always, always think about what you need to say before blurting it out. Long after the disagreements are over, the words are never erased. Be clear about the point that you want the other person to understand. Pick the right time. And always keep the respect foremost on your mind.
The best piece of advice I have ever received came from my dad when I was a teenager. It has always stayed with me. . .
Think before you let a single word come out of your mouth. You can’t ever take the words back and after you think about a better way to say it, you might decide that you really don’t need to say anything at all. He shortened this to: Think before you speak.