Don’t Destroy Your Marriage
Three Vital Reasons To Not seek Relationship Advice From Your Family And Friends
There are a million pitfalls for any relationship to fall into and crumble, but don’t ever let yours be that you tried to seek advice from family and friends. Don’t seek advice from family and friends about your relationship, if it doesn’t lead to hard feelings and frustration right away it almost surely will down the road. Any kind of advice from family members should be taken with a grain of salt, because that is just how significant their opinion can be to both of you. It is also important to realize that your family and friends have a far different relationship than the dynamics of your relationship. They will only be able to give you advice coming from what they have experienced and based on their own relationship – not yours. You are the expert when it comes to what the two of you have together.
The number one reason you don’t seek advice from family and friends about your relationship is that it is all biased. Your family and friends only want what is best for you and don’t necessarily care about what is best for your partner. That is why they are so confused when you don’t do it, because you care more about your partner then they ever will. There are two people in the relationship and your family and friends are only hearing one side.
The number two reason we say don’t seek advice from family and friends about your relationship is that it will never be forgotten. Your family and friends will always remind you of the trouble you approached them with and they will never let your relationship move on to happy times. Your family and friends want to see you happy and may long forget that you ever experience happiness in the relationship.
The number three, and final, reason you don’t seek advice from family and friends about your relationship is that it is none of their business. You and your partner have the right to keep relationship matters between the two of you, do just that and nothing less! It can really tear away at the trust between the two of you if you share intimate details with your family and friends. Sometimes you just need to vent out the frustration and hurt. Just make sure that you know what is okay to be discussed with others.
Your family and friends mean well. The best advice is to think about what you need in the moment from the relationship itself. Is it patience, to be heard, compliments, affection, being made a priority, etc.
The main point is don’t seek advice from family and friends about your relationship.